Stuck-in-a-Book’s Weekend Miscellany

Happy weekend folks, hope you’re enjoying 2011 so far! And let’s make a pact, shall we, to say twenty-eleven, rather than two-thousand-and-eleven? Ok? ‘k.

A fair few links and blog posts for today, as they’ve been building up for a while…

1.) I love Mary’s blog Mrs. Miniver’s Daughter, especially this lovely anecdotal post.

2.) John Self, over at Asylum, has written a brilliant and insightful review of Barbara Comyns’ exceptionally good and unusual novel Who Was Changed and Who Was Dead – click here to read it. The new edition I mentioned a while ago from Dorothy, A Publishing Project is now out in the US; a copy is winging its way to me. Check out the Book Depository for free worldwide shipping on it…

3.) …and whilst we’re on the topic, ‘seventydys’ (in the comments on the above review) linked to an interview with Danielle Dutton, who founded Dorothy.

4.) The man behind Caustic Cover Critic has set up Whisky Priest publishing, reprinting some of his favourite out-of-print books using a POD publisher – see more here. He uses his expertise to make some really beautiful covers, although I can’t say I love the colours on the spines – but, lots of intriguing titles.

5.) And finally… the Oxonian Review have written all about my favourite film from last year, Another Year. Rather more high-falutin’ than my own thoughts – and probably rather more well-informed too!

Wikio for January

The good people of Wikio have sent me January’s list – everyone loves a list, so here you go! I am very intrigued by the blog name above mine… and, as always, nice to know so many of the other people on it (and realise how delightfully daft this all is.)

Wikio.co.uk – January Literature Ranking

1 Charlie’s Diary
2 Crooked Timber
3 Book Chick City
4 Quaerentia
5 The Book Smugglers
6 Stuck In A Book
7 Reading Matters
8 Savidge Reads
9 An Awfully Big Blog Adventure
10 dovegreyreader scribbles
11 My Favourite Books
12 booktwo.org
13 Asylum
14 UrbanTick
15 A Don’s Life – Times Online WBLG
16 Pepys’ Diary
17 Cornflower
18 Just William’s Luck
19 BubbleCow
20 Gaskella

Ranking made by Wikio.co.uk

Age Cannot Wither Her

Whilst we’re talking about unusual narrative structures (as we were with Sarah Waters the other day) some months ago I read Remember Remember by Hazel McHaffie, which she very kindly sent to me as a review copy. I find Alzheimer’s sad, terrifying, and fascinating all at the same time, partly from experience within my own family, and I am drawn to writers who can portray dementia well. Or, indeed, any sort of illness or mental state which requires the author to give a wandering narrative voice.

McHaffie’s novel is split into halves. The first is devoted to Jessica and her attempts to grapple with her mother’s (Doris) dementia. Doris is becoming a danger to herself, and Jessica makes the difficult decision to find a residential home for her. Whilst sorting through Doris’ possessions, she makes unnerving discoveries about her mother’s and her own past. Thrown in amongst this intrigue are the everyday stuff of difficult children, unhelpful siblings, and a love interest in the form of Aaron the lawyer. I did wonder a bit whether Aaron was added at the suggestion of an editor, because he didn’t seem quite to fit with the rest of the novel – does every book need a love interest, really? – but we shan’t squabble over him.

To be perfectly honest, all this felt perfectly serviceable, but perhaps a little uninspiring. Documenting the grief and anguish of caring for a mother with dementia is done well, but other people’s grief can only be documented so many times. And, like love, it is all-consuming when one experiences it oneself, and difficult to find captivating when one is not – with the very honourable exception of Susan Hill’s In the Springtime of the Year.

So I was flicking through, thinking Remember Remember a perfectly good – and perfectly ordinary – novel, when the second half launched itself. Suddenly we move from Jessica’s viewpoint into Doris’:
The board says summer. 29 August. A sun, smiling. I smile.
Yellow. I hate yellow.
“You OK, Doris?” a blue lady says as she stomps past.
Doris? Doris isn’t here. But I know where she is. Hiding. Hiding under the shed in our garden. Hiding from Papa.The reader is swept into Doris’ confused and disorientating perspective on the world – and it is confusing and disorientating. This has been done brilliantly elsewhere – I recommend Eric Melbye’s Tru and Margaret Laurence’s The Stone Angel – but, if not quite at their heights, McHaffie offers a unique twist to the narrative of dementia. Each chapter of Doris’ perspective takes a step back in time. To be honest, I never worked out if the time gaps were sequential or cumulative (i.e. did ‘three years earlier’ mean subtract another three years, or simply three years from the present?) but that doesn’t really matter. What McHaffie cleverly presents is a mind, and thus a prose, that gets gradually more and more coherent – the mirror image of a mind disassembling through dementia.

As with Sarah Waters’ novel, there is much that is revealed through this anti-chronology – and I don’t want to spoil anything for potential readers. What I will say to anybody who does pick up Remember Remember is: persevere. The first half may feel a little ordinary, but I think McHaffie was just readying herself for the second half. That’s when things get interesting – in terms of structure, narrative events, and especially narrative voice.

Thanks for sending me your novel, Hazel – and I’m pleased I finally remembered to write about it! And, because I forgot to mention it earlier, a big gold star to Tom Bee, who provided the design and image for the beautiful cover. Give yourself a pat on the back.

1000!

I’ve been scheduling posts to appear at various times, and have a few drafts waiting, but I hope and I think I’m right in saying… this is my 1000th post!

When I started my blog, back in April 2007, I thought it would be good fun and I’d have a dozen or so readers. I never dreamt that I’d be offered review copies of books, or get to meet so many wonderful bloggers in person, or even that I’d still be bothering with it in a year’s time. Here we are, over three and a half years later.

I’d love to give you all sorts of stats about number of comments, or word count, or whatever – but I don’t think I’ve any way of doing that. I can tell you there are about 290 book reviews up – see the lot here – and far more lovely readers than I’d ever imagined.

I’ll use this celebratory post to announce the winner of Debo Devonshire’s Wait For Me! which is going to… Mistress Cynica! Do send me your address, and I’ll get the book off to you…

Waters run backwards

The final book I read in 2010 – deftly added to the list I posted a couple of days ago – was Sarah Waters’ The Night Watch. This is my third Waters novel, and this year was the year of Third Time Lucky (c.f.: Evelyn Waugh; Muriel Sparks) – but not, as it happened, with Waters. That sounds like one of my shortest reviews, doesn’t it? Sorry, folks, but I’m not stopping there… After quite liking Affinity back in 2003 or 2004, I loved The Little Stranger this summer – and if it hadn’t been for that frustrating ending, it would have been one of my favourite reads this year. But I had caught the Waters bug, and my post-Christmas read was The Night Watch, only approx. four years after everyone else.

For those who haven’t read this already, I’ll give you a quick overview. The unusual angle of The Night Watch is that it is told backwards. Events kick off in 1947, and work their way backwards to 1941, stopping off in 1944. That’s not as many stepping stones as I expected, when I read various reviews of this novel in 2006, when it was published, and it does rather put the novel between two stools. On the one hand, there are all sorts of clues laid down regarding past events (further on in the narrative); on the other hand, since there are only three sections – and the final one is very short – it feels a bit like Waters didn’t let herself experiment quite enough. Al this leads me, if you’re not careful, to start talking about sjuzhet and fabula, or histoire and recit, if we’re getting all theoretical. Apologies if this is known already, but quick crash course in a bit Russian Formalism: ‘fabula’ is the chronological series of events; ‘sjuzhet’ is the way this is arranged in a narrative. So Waters has her sjuzhet all in a twist.

Which all means that Waters could be a little self-conscious when she writes this:
“I go to the cinema,” said Kay; “there’s nothing funny about that. Sometimes I sit through the films twice over. Sometimes I go in half-way through, and watch the second half first. I almost prefer them that way – people’s pasts, you know, being so much more interesting than their futures. Or perhaps that’s just me…”But, as usual, I’m getting ahead of myself.

There are plenty of characters, and plenty of things going on, in The Night Watch. Sarah Waters being Sarah Waters, quite a lot of the novel is about being a lesbian in wartime (I loved the if-you’re-in-the-know reference to ‘Quaint Irene’ from Mapp and Lucia as the name of a boat) – and four of the central characters are lesbians, who seem to all be in love with each other at various stages of the novel. Well, one of them – Mickey – appears to be immune to the charms of Helen, Julia, and Kay, but they are all embroiled with one another. To be honest, I didn’t find any of the female characters particularly well delineated – throw in Viv, Helen’s colleague at a sort of post-war dating agency, and they all rather blurred into one. Even Julia’s novelistic career didn’t help me remember which one was which until we were a hundred or so pages in.

Not so the men. Viv’s brother Duncan is doing a menial job in a factory, and has a surprise reunion with Robert Fraser. Duncan’s naive, bulky uncertainty and Robert’s confident charm are done very well – but the reader has no idea what sort of reunion is taking place. Were they colleagues, comrades-in-arms, or romantically involved? I couldn’t possibly tell you, of course…

I’m being a bit critical, so I shall redress the balance – Waters’ structure is often done very well. The careful laying of clues, and all manner of mysterious events, lead to plenty of gasp-moments in the second half. Obviously I shan’t reveal these, but the secret passing of a ring; curious Uncle Horace; and whispers of infidelity are all clues to watch out for… and lead to satisfying ‘oh, right’ moments later.

But as with The Little Stranger, which was almost all compelling reading but had a dud 100 pages, The Night Watch is longer than it needs to be, and drags occasionally. At her best, Waters can tear a story along – but at her worst, it feels rather self-indulgent and unedited.

And then… I feel a bit mean, quoting this bit, as it’s the worst offender – but:
“What’s the matter? Aren’t you happy?”

“Happy?” Viv blinked. “I don’t know. Is anybody happy? Really happy, I mean? People pretend they are.”

“I don’t know either,” said Helen, after a moment. “Happiness is such a fragile sort of thing these days. It’s as though there’s only so much to go round.”Do people talk like this? Did people ever talk like this – except in novels? It’s the sort of thing 1930s plays are scattered with, but I doubt it ever spilled over into read life…

But I’m only picking all these holes because I’m trying to work out why The Night Watch got shortlisted for all sorts of awards. There is so much to like in Waters’ novel, and it was definitely compelling reading much of the time. Writing the narrative backwards is a good idea executed without pretension, but also perhaps without reaching its potential. But somehow, for me, Waters missed the mark. The Little Stranger was very nearly a brilliant novel. The Night Watch was very nearly a very good novel. I’ve not read all of Waters’ novels, but… is she destined to always fall short from her potential? Or am I a lone voice in the wilderness? Fans of Waters – convince me!

End of Year Meme

Except, naturally, it’s the beginning of the year – but this is my little sum-up of 2010 in books. I’m using the same meme I’ve been using since 2007, which adds a nice continuity to it all. And here goes…

– How many books read in 2010?
115, which is rather fewer than last year, but I’d wager I’ve read more pages this year.

– Fiction/Non-Fiction ratio?
96/19 – surprising few non-fiction titles, given how much literary theory I’ve been reading. I intend to read more non-fiction this year, but then again I intend that every year.

– Male/Female authors?
47 by men; 67 by women; 1 by one of each. Not an unusual ratio for me…

– Favourite book read?
Nella Last’s War by Nella Last, as I mentioned in my Top Ten List.

– Least favourite?
I gave up on one or two, but of the ones I finished I confess I was disappointed by The Elegance of the Hedgehog by Muriel Barbery.

– Oldest book read?
I think that honour goes to Mary Shelley and Frankenstein (1818).

– Newest book read?
This little lot were all published this year.

– Longest book title?
I must confess, I haven’t done a thorough count of all the titles, but, discounting subtitles, I think Pont wins with The British Character Studied and Revealed and 37 characters.

– Shortest book title?
I’ve had three-letter titles and four-letter titles win this accolade in past years, but in 2010 the shortest I managed was Christos Tsiolkas’ The Slap at 7.

– How many re-reads?
Only 13, which is far fewer than last year’s 31 – not something I noticed decreasing, and I can’t beging to imagine why.

– Most books read by one author this year?
E.M. Delafield and C.S. Lewis tie on four apiece, despite not having read any Lewis this year until the 20th December. Barbara Comyns is snapping at their heels with three.

– Any in translation?
Probably the most ever, at 12, mostly from the French but with a Scandinavian title or two.

– How many books were borrowed from the library?
27 from the library this year, and at least half a dozen borrowed from friends.

– Name a book you’ve read this year which was recommended by a blogger?
Annabel (aka Gaskella) not only recommended, but lent, All Quiet on the Orient Express by Magnus Mills – thanks Annabel (and thanks for pointing out that I’d written the wrong title here!)

Happy New Year!

I’m back with the internet now – I must confess, I did frequently sneak onto the internet on my mobile, but didn’t communicate with the outside world. The posts all popped up at the right times, and I especially love all your recommendations for favourite biography/autobiography. So many titles I haven’t heard of, and so many I want to read. Non-fiction always seems to appear at the top of my End of Year Best Reads, and yet accounts for fairly little of my reading – so lots of opportunities to rectify.

My End of Year Meme will appear tomorrow (do go and see Thomas’ if you get a chance; it’s hilarious) so this is post is just to wish you well for the New Year – and amuse you with my post-2010 book buying antics.

I had hoped to go to the Bookbarn in Somerset today, as nothing on their website suggested their open-7-days-a-week policy changed for New Year’s Day. But repeated ‘phone calls got no answer, so I assume they must be closed – note to Bookbarn: do something to your website! I’m heading back to Oxford on the 3rd, so a splurgy trip to the Bookbarn will have to wait.

Did I let this hold me back? No, of course not – I went online, and have ordered 24 books. Yes, 24 – the same number that I bought in 365 days last year! Before you fall off your chair, or anything, I should mention that 20 of them came in a boxset. The other four were books which were waiting on my Amazon Wishlist for the New Year to roll around.

Obviously they haven’t arrived yet, but I’ll tell you what they are now.


– English Journeys Collection: one of those fabulous boxed sets, with 20 titles to do with journeys and nature. Too many titles to list, but you can see them all here.

– Life Among the Savages – Shirley Jackson: I’m so intrigued how the author of We Have Always Lived in the Castle and The Haunting of Hill House could write something which sounds more Provincial Lady than Headless Lady.

– Exchange – Paul Magrs: I saw this mentioned on Simon S’s blog a while ago, and he says it’s for any lover of books – AND it features a bibliophile called Simon.


– The Man Who Planted Trees – Jean Giono: Although this is in my Top Ten of 2010, I don’t actually own a copy. So on Jan. 1st I had to put that right, no?

– As We Are Now – May Sarton: this was on Thomas’ Top Ten of 2010, and really appealed – and, at 1p plus postage, I used my new-found buying freedom to have this wing its way to me.

Books Read 2010

I’m typing this up a few days early, so perhaps the list won’t be complete if I finish a book or two before midnight strikes on December 31st. There are a few books here waiting review, which will appear sometime in 2011 – so don’t worry if yours is mentioned here and not yet reviewed! I’ll also do my annual End of Year Meme, but not until January. Here’s the lot – and I made my annual target of over 100 books! As before, re-reads have an ‘x’ in front of them.

x1. The Provincial Lady Goes Furhter – E.M. Delafield
2. In the Springtime of the Year – Susan Hill
3. A Game of Hide and Seek – Elizabeth Taylor
4. The Unspoken Truth – Angelica Garnett
5. Nothing is Safe – E.M. Delafield
6. Mrs. Tim of the Regiment – D.E. Stevenson
7. Betwixt and Between – Rosa Maria Bracco
8. In the Garden of the North American Martyrs – Tobias Wolff
9. Nella Last’s War – Nella Last
x10. Sisters By A River – Barbara Comyns
11. Immortality – Milan Kundera
12. The Perks of Being a Wallflower – Stephen Chbosky
13. White is for Witching – Helen Oyeyemi
14. Staying With Relations – Rose Macaulay
15. The Blue Fox – Sjon
16. Beside the Sea – Veronique Olmi
x17. The Provincial Lady in America – E.M. Delafield
18. David Golder – Irene Nemirovsky
19. Can Any Mother Help Me? – Jenna Bailey (ed.)
20. Miss Mole – E.H. Young
21. Mrs. Dose the Doctor’s Wife – Joyce Dennys
x22. The Provincial Lady in Wartime – E.M. Delafield
23. High Wages – Dorothy Whipple
24. The Overdose – Joyce Dennys
25. Mystery Mile – Margery Allingham
26. Travels With My Aunt – Graham Greene
27. Aunt’s Aren’t Gentlemen – P.G. Wodehouse
x28. Matty and the Dearingroydes – Richmal Crompton
29. The British Character Studied and Revealed – Pont
30. Hector and the Search for Happiness – Francois Lelord
31. Identity – Milan Kundera
32. Boxer, Beetle – Ned Beauman
33. The Haunted Bridge and other stories – Jane Gordon-Cumming
34. The Behaviour of Moths – Poppy Adams
35. The Maintenance of Headway – Magnus Mills
36. A Long Long Way – Sebastian Barry
37. The Girl With Glass Feet – Ali Shaw
38. The Art of Gardening – Mary Robinson
39. Friends Like These – Danny Wallace
40. Brother of the More Famous Jack – Barbara Trapido
41. Secret Lives – E.F. Benson
42. Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? – Edward Albee
x43. Miss Ranskill Comes Home – Barbara Euphan Todd
44. Little Boy Lost – Marghanita Laski
45. Jude the Obscure – Thomas Hardy
46. Images in a Mirror – Sigrid Undset
x47. The Dover Road – A.A. Milne
48. The Man Who Planted Trees – Jean Giono, Michael McCurdy
49. The Elegance of the Hedgehog – Muriel Barbery
50. The Vet’s Daughter – Barbara Comyns
51. Stone in a Landslide – Maria Barbal
52. The Green Child – Herbert Read
53. Flower Phantoms – Ronald Fraser
54. A Harp in Lowndes Square – Rachel Ferguson
55. The Sandcastle – Iris Murdoch
56. Being George Devine’s Daughter – Harriet Devine
57. Mr. Rosenblum’s List – Natasha Solomons
58. More Talk of Jane Austen – Sheila Kaye-Smith, G.B. Stern
59. Too Much Happiness – Alice Munro
60. Two Days in Aragon – Molly Keane
61. The Poetics of Space – Gaston Bachelard
62. The Seraphim Room – Edith Olivier
63. The Murder at the Vicarage – Agatha Christie
64. The Little Stranger – Sarah Waters
65. Wish Her Safe At Home – Stephen Benatar
66. The Graveyard Book – Neil Gaiman
67. The Debt to Pleasure – John Lanchester
68. Andrina and other stories – George Mackay Brown
x69. Once A Week – A.A. Milne
70. Let’s Kill Uncle – Rohan O’Grady
71. Fantasy: The Literature of Subversion – Rosemary Jackson
72. Birds in Tiny Cages – Barbara Comyns
73. The Uncanny House – Mary L. Pendered
74. Frankenstein – Mary Shelley
75. The House in the Country – Bernadette Murphy
76. Travelling Light – Tove Jansson
77. The Driver’s Seat – Muriel Spark
78. Portrait of the Mother as a Young Woman – Friederich Christian Delius
79. The Hours (screenplay) – David Hare
80. The Loved One – Evelyn Waugh
81. A Kid for Two Farthings – Wolf Mankowitz
82. Stevenson Under the Palm Trees – Albert Manguel
83. The Turn of the Screw – Henry James
84. Mister Pip – Lloyd Jones
85. An Unexpected Guest – Bernadette Murphy
x86. Howards End is on the Landing – Susan Hill
87. Magical Realism and the Fantastic – Amaryll Beatrice Chanady
88. Which Way? – Theodora Benson
89. The Uncanny – Nicholas Royle
90. Villette – Charlotte Bronte
91. Stories of the Strange and Sinister – Frank Baker
92. What is Psychoanalysis? – Isador H. Coriat
93. Fantasy and Mimesis – Kathryn Hume
94. The Penelopiad – Margaret Atwood
95. Remember, Remember – Hazel McHaffie
96. The Fantastic: A Strctural Approach to a Literary Genre – Tveztan Todorov
97. Loitering With Intent – Muriel Spark
98. Make Me an offer – Wolf Mankowitz
99. Strange Glory – L.H. Myers
100. The Slap – Christos Tsiolkas
101. The Fantastic in Literature – Eric Rabkin
102. The Good Earth – Pearl S. Buck
103. Joy Street: A Wartime Romance in Letters – Mirren Barford, John Lewes
104. Love on the Supertax – Marghanita Laski
105. Tepper Isn’t Going Out – Calvin Trillin
106. Lazy Thoughts of a Lazy Girl – Jenny Wren
107. All Quiet on the Orient Express – Magnus Mills
108. Wait For Me! – Deborah Devonshire
109. The Haunted Bookshop – Christopher Morley
110. Dangerous Ages – Rose Macaulay
x111. The Magician’s Nephew – C.S. Lewis
x112. The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe – C.S. Lewis
x113. The Horse and His Boy – C.S. Lewis
x114. Prince Caspian – C.S. Lewis
115. The Night Watch – Sarah Waters

Top Ten of 2010

I’ve been enjoying the top ten (or however many) lists which have been popping up all over the blogosphere recently. Making my own is always a highlight of the last days of December – scouring back through the wonderful reads I’ve been treated to throughout the year. As usual, far more than ten were worthy of being heralded, but I have whittled it down to just ten. And, yes, it is in order. The order is subjective, in terms of my appreciation, rather than objective quality – and would doubtless change if I made this list again next week, but I do love a list. Click on each title to take you to my review of them. Here it is, in reverse order:


10.) The Good Earth – Pearl S. Buck
The first of two book group reads which made my list, this tale of a Chinese farmer and his family is told simply but so well.

9.) Jude the Obscure – Thomas Hardy
And this is the second. Having tried and failed to read this back in 2004, was pleased to try again – and was swept away.

8.) Being George Devine’s Daughter – Harriet Devine
A wonderful gift from a fellow blogger, and a captivating tale of childhood among theatre’s greats.

7.) The Man Who Planted Trees – Jean Giono
Enchantingly simple. Giono’s name is in the list, but it is Michael McCurdy’s warm, striking woodcuts which make this book special.

6.) The Loved One – Evelyn Waugh
I’m glad I persevered with Waugh, as this short, hilarious look at the American funeral industry is an absolute joy.

5.) The Vet’s Daughter – Barbara Comyns
Comyn’s surreal but poignant style never lets you down, and this spectacular novel is no exception.

4.) Wait For Me! – Deborah Devonshire

Mitford mania continues apace here at Stuck-in-a-Book, as you’ll have seen in my recent review. Don’t forget to enter the draw for a copy.

3.) Travelling Light – Tove Jansson
The only book to appear on both this list and Project 24, Tove Jansson’s gentle touch and incredible insight into human nature is nigh-on flawless. More translations, please.

2.) Loitering With Intent – Muriel Spark
My favourite novel read this year, told so cleverly and with inimitable talent.

1.) Nella Last’s War – Nella Last
An early read in 2010, but my lasting favourite – a very talented writer who, but for Mass Observation, would never have had courage to put pen to paper. I’m looking forward to reading her later diaries in 2011.

Wait For Me!

I have been reading Wait For Me! by Deborah Devonshire for (approximately) forever. I started it the day it arrived, back in September, but a combination of it being too heavy for my bag, and not being able to cope with the idea of finishing it – not to mention that somewhere towards the middle of each month I realise that I’ve not read the books for either of my book groups, and have six days to do so – mean I only turned the last page earlier this month.

For those of you who won’t get to the end of this post – and it will involve whatever the written equivalent of squawking is – I shall mention now that I have a copy to give away. Tell me your favourite autobiography, in the comments, for a chance of winning. This is open worldwide, so pop your name in. For many reasons to do so, dear reader, read on…

The Mitfords have been of great interest to many from their childhood onwards. They skirted around the outside of my consciousness, with Nancy taking occasional leaps forward, until I read the collection of their letters, expertly edited by Charlotte Mosley. Now – and I suspect most of you know this – I am rather besotted by some of the sisters. Unity and Jessica remain outside my affection, but I rather love the rest, and am devoted to Debo. So much so, that I am going to be hugely unprofessional and refer to her as ‘Debo’ throughout this review.

So, of course, I was delighted when she published her autobiography. Earlier works include collections of articles and musings (Counting My Chickens and Home to Roost) as well as lots of books about her home, Chatsworth, which I haven’t read. Those collections I have read, whilst entertaining and joyous, did little to suggest that Debo would be able to sustain a full-length autobiography. How wrong I was to worry.

Perhaps there isn’t much that will surprise in Wait For Me! Anybody who has read about the sisters before will find they know many of the anecdotes and stories already. What this book brings to the table is Debo’s perspective, and her wonderfully calm way with words. I hadn’t noted down any quotations to share, but having just flicked the book open at random, I came across a paragraph beginning thus:
Unity was always the odd one out. She arrived in this world in August 1914 to the sound of troops marching to war and departed it thirty-four years later in tragic circumstances. Larger than life in every way, she could have been model for a ship’s figurehead or Boadicea, with her huge navy-blue eyes, perfectly straight nose and fair hair worn in two long plaits. Perhaps because of her teenage diet of mashed potatoes, her teeth were her only bad feature.Debo hasn’t allowed familial closeness to cloud her judgement or provoke over-sentimentality; yet, who but a sister would choose those images and those details? Unity, who later befriended Hitler, and tried to kill herself on the outbreak of WW2, comes alive with these much more prosaic details. It is Debo’s complete unflappability which charms me through the account. Nowhere – except, of course, the title – would Debo dream of using an exclamation mark. It would be poor manners to get over-excited about something.

I was worried that Wait For Me! would pall once Debo had left home, and once the sisters were no longer centre stage – but I was wrong. Some of the most moving pages come when Debo describes her husband’s alcoholism, or their miscarriages and stillborn children. This isn’t done remotely gratuitously, or like those ghastly misery memoirs, but truthfully and unsensationally. And it is evident that Debo is far more interested in the businesslike running of Chatsworth than she in the doings of her sisters in their youths – her enthusiasm is contagious.

Don’t worry for my sanity. I am under no delusion that Debo and I could really be friends. My vegetarianism might put paid to that, for a start, let alone our fairly divergent views on hunting. Debo is occasionally unconsciously hilarious – like when, after a chapter devoted to the joys of hunting parties, she writes that ‘a fox came in daylight and murdered [chickens] for fun, as these serial destroyers do.’ Takes a beetle to know a beetle, Debo, m’dear.

But none of this really seems to matter, and it certainly doesn’t stop me adoring Debo and loving her book. Along with the spectacular collection of letters edited by Charlotte Mosley, Wait For Me! is a unique piece of social history, as well as an honest and entertaining personal memoir. The Mitfords are not everyone’s cup of tea (my own dear brother has a violent prejudice against them, based not on their Fascism or Communism, but rather Nancy’s refusal to use air-mail and their nicknaming of the Queen Mother as ‘Cake’) – but Debo’s book confirms that they are very definitely mine. In a china cup and saucer, naturally, with ginger cake on the side.